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Elevating Your Mood and Overcoming Depression:

Elevating Your Mood and Overcoming Depression: 
The 10 Most Selfish Things You Should Do For Yourself


1. Eat well and feed your body properly. Did you ever pause and look at the connection between how you feed yourself and your mental lows? This is a "biggie", folks. I have a friend who gained a bit of local fame for his work with depressed and troubled children. All he did was put them on good nutrition. Within three to six months, typically, he created radical changes in their behavior for the good. Your mood and the health of your body are on a direct link. A quality liquid mineral supplement is a very good start.

2. Volunteer your time to help another or others that cannot help themselves. It is harder to see your own misery when you are focused on others.

3. Learn yoga, pilates, tai-chi or some form of quiet physical discipline––at some point in your life. Whether or not you continue doing it for the rest of your life, the time spent doing it for a year or so teaches you how to connect your mind and body to work together. It helps you to become more in tune with those things which cause you stress and gain some control over them. The command you gain learning this stays with you your whole life.

4. Shut off the bad news for a while––for a long while. If you are perusing the feeds for all the latest "news", chances are that you are being consistently bombarded with negative commentary. Do you really think this has no effect on your depression? Turn off your television and use this time to do something you want to do that you tell yourself you have no time for. You don't have to replace your TV time with something mundane or arduous; use the time for something that you've always wanted to do.

5. Learn to ride a horse or gain mastery over anything larger than yourself which has a will of its own, at some point in your life. This teaches you patience and patience is the only thing that allows you to prevail with something that will not bend to purely physical threats. This patience is precisely the skill you can use whenever adversity strikes and seems to incapacitate you. A suitable replacement for a large, live animal, would be helping out with a group of school children on a field trip … ;o)

6. Walk … every day … no excuses. Toxins build up in the body and can cause depression. If you cannot walk, you need to do some kind of physical exercise that moves toxins more quickly out of the body. Your liver and your kidneys are your two major body cleaners and, if you sit on your butt all day and don't move, these two organs cannot handle the day-to-day load that an honest sweat can help to pull from your body.

7. Teach others something that you don't know perfectly yourself; there is nothing quite like it for forcing your own learning and ability, which increases your overall certainty and well being. As well, a bit like the "volunteer your time" above, it pulls your focus off of yourself.

8. Learn to love, and to forgive and forget -- hatred, anger and resentment are NOT merely a momentary feeling, they build up over time and drive you into a hole eventually.

9. Own up to your misdeeds. Misdeeds are the things that you did, or are doing, to another that you would not want to have happen to yourself. Whether you can justify them or not, they will hang about your neck like a noose. The vast majority of predisposition to disease is wrought within the stress caused by your failure to own up to the wrongs you've done to others. And, while clinical depression might be "chemical imbalance" based, that imbalance has to feed on what is in your mind. Remove as much of its fodder as you can to lift the load.

10. Apologize to the you in your past. Notice that I didn't write "come to terms with your past" or "forget your past". Actually look at your past (that you may rather forget) and figure out what part of that you had a hand in; what role did you play in bringing it about? Apologize to yourself for doing that––you will be able to move on from there.


I am not a doctor. All of this is merely an aggregate of everything that has helped me to overcome the debilitating depression that once plagued my life. Maybe it can help you, too. I wrote it with love … :o)



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Comments

  1. hey. it´s a amazing and sophisticate shoot. but i have a question. mcro-photography with adapter by camera is it macro or micro photography`?

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  2. The greats have fought a battle, scarred,victorious and with a shining new light etch a path that others will follow.
    You inspire me and so many to wipe off the crumbs and take that first step. I want to reach through this photo and give you smooshy hug and thank you! xo

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  3. This is one of the most profound and beautiful posts I've ever seen!!  I can't ride a horse but I'm working on all the other things!!  You are VERY wise!!  Beautiful photograph Robin Griggs Wood as well!!  Thanks very much for sharing with the #LandscapePhotography theme!!

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  4. I am now overwhelmed by challenge!!  :O

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  5. Que foto linda....vou mandar uma que tirei da praca perto da minha casa.....ok!

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  6. Sem comentarios....show de palavras.....kkkkk

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  7. Rüdiger Pannenborg -- You would think it should be called "micro" photography, wouldn't you?!! "Macro Photography" really just means anything that is captured at larger than life size; hence, the "macro". Language is funny ... ;o)
    Cheryl Cooper -- thank you for those wonderful words, and inspiratio in themselves!
    Amy Weiss -- thank you, dear! :o)
    Chris Bagley -- thank you, my friend!
    Pasqual Barczyk -- thank you!
    Margaret Tompkins -- oh, thank you so much dear! I should have written "#11 - add Margaret to your circles, she is a sure fire mood elevator!" :o))  ...  And don't worry about the horse, a large group of school children on a field trip is actually harder! ;oD
    Josep-Maria Robert -- thank you!
    John MacLeod -- just pick one to start ... ;op ... ;oƒ
    Shawn McClure -- thank you, my friend

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  8. Jason Kowing -- Yes, I am sure you have a handle on this! :o) Thank you my friend. And shares are great because you never know who might  be able to use this info right now.

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  9. Well said! This brings much happiness to my day. ♥

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  10. shane holsclaw -- a lot of people are, which is precisely why I recommend it ... builds those "overcoming your fears" muscles. Large groups of school children are much scarier! ;oD (Thank you, my friend!)

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  11. Layba Zaman -- yes, these are things that you do for yourself. Selfish can be a good thing some times ... :o). And thank you for the kind words.

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  12. Sonia Kalčić -- I glad ... thank you, dear! Have a great day!

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  13. Noooo, shane holsclaw -- I feel your pain, my friend!!! :oO

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  14. They are ALL dating now, shane holsclaw?!! (I thought you'd left an apostrophe out of a contraction.)
    That is SO much scarier than riding a horse!!!!!

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  15. This is so strong and meaningful.... thank you Robin Griggs Wood thank you so much.

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  16. wonderful words and a wonderful shot....

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  17. Robin Griggs Wood thanks for sharing your great image and challenging thoughts. I have a "melancholy" personality so struggle with mild depression a lot. Being outdoors and breathing in the beauty is so helpful to my well-being. It's a journey, isn't it? Thank you for your encouragement.

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  18. This is a complex way for that many people do all (or similar) in one title.

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  19. Wonderful post with sound advice, thanks for sharing with #landscapephotography

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  20. It seems like no two people can ever completely agree on the meaning of common sense, but the world would be a better place if more people agreed that this is a good working definition.  My Buddhist teacher called this enlightened self interest, just because selfishness hits a chord for some people.  Whatever you call the lily, it's just as purty!

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  21. shane holsclaw -- I thought my memory served me correctly on that one! ;oD
    Ricardo Williams -- thank you, my Good Stuff friend! :o)
    Shannon S. Myers -- thank you, dear ... have a beautiful day.
    Rob Patterson -- yes, it is indeed ... and your positive attitude is the best thing of all! :o)
    Saurabh Mhatre -- I'm glad you think so ... :o)
    KL Bhatt -- :oD
    Dervis Cakmakkaya -- yes
    paul t beard -- thank you so much for curating and your kind words!

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  22. David Robertson -- argue for your disabilities and you get to keep them. But you can have your viewpoint, if you like.

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  23. John Lawson -- clearly, you don't read. Did you see "scientific" written in the original post? Scrolling through the things you post to your stream, it is also quite clear that you are part of the problem and prefer people to be depressed around you.

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  24. Todd Green -- great comment, my friend!

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  25. Wow, you drew out one of those negativity cultists, Robin!  That's so cool... you know you said something good when they feel they have to try to poison it!  But on a more important note, do you ever wonder if Jason Kowing *actually* pauses like that when he speaks?

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  26. Todd Green -- you are endearing me more and more to you every day ... I SO needed that comment!! :oD
    I was sitting here with a little cloud over myself from the "currently Blocked" (;o)) ... I mean, I know where that stuff comes from, but I was letting it needle me anyway (duh!). But you are so right ... push a little mood elevation out there and it always bring the "career haters" out of the woodwork. Thank you!!

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  27. If you want a giggle, go read my week 4 plus post ;-)

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  28. Wow, I just read the thread. Holy . . . . . . (something or other). Black and white thinkers who can't abide anything less than their own analysis. I've worked with "dysfunctional" people for years. And to claim that the only depression is clinical depression is outrageous! I've seen numbers of people living more healthy and functional lives without being institutionalized, receiving anti-depressant medication, nor seeing a psychiatrist. Keep on encouraging others, Robin Griggs Wood and let the nay-sayers go share their concerns with their analyst!

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  29. Todd Green -- I just did ... beyond giggling!!
    I am currently trying to figure out something to say there that would equal its acme of wonderfulness.
    I imagine that is not possible, however! ;oD

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  30. Robin Griggs Wood - Gotta admit that I'm having some problems with the Yoga step... Aren't one's limbs supposed to bend when doing yoga, or did I just (hopefully) read something wrong? ;-)

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  31. I would like to meet some folks who are not "Dysfunctional"  Can someone direct me to a place where I can do so?

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  32. Wow, awesome comment, Rob Patterson!!!
    That sums it right up, doesn't it?! Thank you!

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  33. the Yoga step, pilates and Tai-chi I am OK with  .. it's the horse that's giving me a pause .. :-)

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  34. Shawn McClure -- ;oD... it's OK, my friend ... you'd probably get the same benefit from Karate or kick-boxing or weight training ... anything that teaches one to master the mind and body in unison. We'll save the "bendy" stuff for others ... ;o)

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  35. R U related to a guy called Tiger"

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  36. I like what you wrote. I need to do alot of the things you wrote.

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  37. Thank you very much for sharing. Really nice.

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  38. Exactly what "toxins" are building up "that an honest sweat can help to pull from your body"? I've never found pseudoscientific gobbledegook to be helpful in coping with my clinical depression; maybe others would find facts more useful than new age-y sounding buzzwords?

    Haven't read the whole thing, but this looks like a pretty good summary: http://www.alanpriest.f2s.com/Depression%20Medication%20p5.htm

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  39. Rob Patterson Certainly not all depression is clinical depression, but it's difficult to even define what the differences, if any, are. We don't have any way of directly testing neurotransmitter levels, fMRI and PET scans are of only limited use, we don't know what genes are involved in regulating mood, and self-reporting is notoriously unreliable.

    All of the advice in this post is probably good, silly jargon notwithstanding, but there is a segment of the population which will gain absolutely no relief by following it. Are those people at fault if they try all of these things and still feel depressed? That, I think, is the problem with the "choose to be happy" approach; a lot of people just can't choose to be happy and feel even worse for turning to therapy, medication, and other external resources.

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  40. This is great! In fact, going to take a walk right now because of this post :)

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  41. So true. Take care dear Robin Griggs Wood

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  42. Eva Kulhánková -- that's OK about the "horse" thing, I knew that would be not alright for some folks, that's why I put other options in there. It's all about learning to gain control over something that, for most folks, is uncontrollable––some people even feel that way about large dogs. Even having to work with a large group of people and being the one responsible for directing their actions (or a group of children), these all help. Volunteering one's time for social causes where one has to help lots of other people directly is another form of this. And thank you for the kind words, too .... :o)

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  43. Judy Carey -- note the difference in spelling.

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  44. Stormy Frye -- I hope it helps ... :o)

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  45. Pablo Diaz -- thank you and you're welcome.
    Luis Galarza -- great!

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  46. Beautiful picture, looks amazing, and peaceful. Nice

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  47. Robin Griggs Wood this is a really nice article and I really try to strive to be a bit more "selfish" but it just hasn't been in my nature to think of myself.  Thanks for posting this...

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  48. Matt Ellsworth -- Oh, good article! But maybe you will want to read all of it. Here's a good quote from that author at your link: "whilst it may be possible to inherit a predisposition (or if you like a potential tendency) to develop depression, the expression of this tendency will very much depend on our environment, nutrition, lifestyle and our life experiences -- particularly those of childhood where our "world view" is being developed. Any potential tendency towards depression can therefore either be ameliorated or increased, depending upon how we have lived our lives.
    Oh, and have you tried all these things?

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  49. Luther Cale -- Wow ... I am happy to read that! :o)
    Ylva Budsjö -- thank you, dear ... and you too! :o)

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  50. Scott Aldrich -- I think that anyone with a kind heart will want to be more thoughtful of others than themselves, but don't forget that you need to take care of yourself so that you can be there for others. You're better help to them that way. ... ;o)

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  51. Robin Griggs Wood Yep, I read that part too. In fact, I have now read the entire article and nowhere in it does the author use a vague, catchall term like "toxins".

    Lifestyle absolutely is an important factor for most people dealing with depression, and physical activity certainly isn't likely to make anyone's depression worse. There is no reliable evidence, however, to suggest that exercise ameliorates depressive symptoms by eliminating toxins through perspiration.

    There's a whole lot about our minds, and depression in particular, that we just don't know yet. I think understanding what we do know, though, is better than citing mysterious, unnamed "toxins" as the cause of our ills.

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  52. This is not going to sound very friendly and I assure you I don't mean this in an unfriendly way but point 6 is the most awfully incorrect pseudo-science of the worst kind. The sentiment is absolutely correct but not for the reasons you have given and please be aware, some people will hurt themselves because they believe this kind of misinformation especially if they aggregate it with other mis or accurate information they have.

    Exercise is very good for you, I would never say any different, but your kidneys and liver are not strained if you do not do any, quite the opposite. Exercise damages cells in your body, tears them open and dumps a lot of toxins into your bloodstream. It also encourages the production of hormones which when you stop exercising need clearing out. Don't worry though, a normal healthy liver even during moderate exercise is never stretched beyond 10% of it's capacity. 

    Exercise is good for you because:

    1) You will lose weight and strengthen your muscles and bones, making your body much more like the way it was designed. This makes day to day life easier for you and lower your blood pressure and these things in turn will make you happier.

    2) Every time you exercise, it has been proven that you feel like you have achieved something. This feeling is very very good for your mental well being.

    3) Exercise is a natural source of endorphins, which make you feel good :)

    Exercise is great, it is the wonderdrug for our generation, please don't spread lies about why it is good, there are plenty of truthful reasons.

    Why did that little comment make me write this essay?

    I'm not a positivity hater, far from it, but my sister is heavily into alternative medicine, she nearly died after trying to follow a similar piece of incorrect advice given by a very well meaning person. "Made-up" science is damaging. A disclaimer on the end stating that you are not a doctor is not enough. If you are going to reproduce something that someone else has written, it takes seconds to check it with a reputable source.

    I can't emphasise enough that I am not having a go at you, I know you are a lovely person, I appreciate the sentiment but I worry about people, that is all. 

    Oh and to the people going on about depression and this being some kind of light advice, try it. I am personally caring for a person who is suffering from a deep depression - deep enough for them to spend a significant amount of time in a care facility. This stuff works - it's not the cure but it really really helps alleviate the symptoms.

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  53. Matt Ellsworth -- it's just true data for me. I didn't set myself up as some kind of authority in writing this. "I am not a doctor. All of this is merely an aggregate of everything that has helped me to overcome the debilitating depression that once plagued my life. Maybe it can help you, too." I've been down this road. My depression was deep enough to keep to keep me locked in the house unable to face anything, including worse things during that time that I'll not bring to this conversation. It seems that you just want to get upset over things that you do not understand fully. You have never walked in my shoes and your points carry no weight. Removing toxins from my body, which I specifically addressed through exercise, worked for me, so there is no reason to argue it with me.

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  54. Completely agree Robin Griggs Wood, your beauty is in and out... :)

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  55. William Jones -- a breath of fresh air that is, to read your opposing points expressed with such great respect. Thank you kindly for that! It certainly made me willing to read what you wrote ... :o). Yes, I agree with many of your points. I see that you regard what I wrote as "pseudoscience". Until I detoxified my body I was unable to experience full relief. Exercise was the primary factor in that action––in the detoxifying, not merely the creation of endorphins. State your facts all you like, it will not disparage my own success nor impugn its workability as a tool, which should be used with other methods –– detoxifying the body alone is not a singular answer. Detoxifying done improperly can hurt the body.
    Again, I thank you for the intelligence and civility of your added commentary here, which most certainly contributed much to the conversation.

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  56. Thank you, dear Yasmin Simpson ... :o)

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  57. Robin Griggs Wood Well, I'm really glad it worked for you, I truly am. I've written my piece an certainly have no need to force it on anyone don't worry!

    I hope you continue to stay healthy and I shall continue to look forward to your posts on here :)

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  58. William Jones -- that's very kind of you, thank you, and I genuinely appreciate your input and understand your worries and your wish to help others. You are a good person. I wish the best for your sister, as well!
    Jasmin Monteclar -- thank you very much ... :o)

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  59. I love everything about this post Robin Griggs Wood. Everything.

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  60. The text is an eye-opener... the picture speaks volumes... thanks!!!

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  61. Shelly Gunderson -- thank you, dear!
    Christina Lihani -- thank you so much, my friend!

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  62. Thank you, Shimpy Mishra and Shubhashri Heman

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  63. The main trouble with depression is finding the strength to do those things, which is not easy. It's definitely a goal! Thanks Robin,

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  64. Believe me, I do know this, Sam Breach  –– but the nutrition and regular walking (or some type of sustained physical movement that gets the blood pumping and the circulation moving) are great starts to improving that energy. There are most certainly days that I do not want, nor have the energy, to do these things, but I do them anyway. After trying so many things, I finally just got to the point where I knew that no one else was going to truly help me but me.

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  65. I think I know it too - my doctor just put me back on medication because I wasn't eating properly. I didn't think I had it any more, because I thought I was happy, but she said I did have it although I didn't know it and it was manifesting itself in my losing the will to cook and eat and exercise. I used to be an avid cook. Anyway - the drugs worked and motivated me almost immediately. That was about 2 weeks ago and I have been cooking up a storm and eating properly again instead of letting my Farm-boxes rot in the fridge as they had been - they are now being put to good use! It's a miracle.  The previous 6 months were spent eating mostly toast and candy! So - a little boost from the right medication can trigger the will to start to do these things again! Now I need to start working down the rest of the list. But not horses.

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  66. OK, no horses, Sam Breach -- that leaves you with a large dog or a bunch of school kids on a field trip! (Just kidding ... I am happy to read your comment.)

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  67. The visualization of "toxins" leaving the body, either through exercise or some form of meditation, is hardly "new-age."  Vajrayana Buddhism has used this as one of its methods in the preliminary practices for many generations.  It has a very real effect on the perception and motivation which are very key to overcoming depression.  It does not require any actual "toxins" to be removed from the body.  Abusing any technique, whether its weight lifting, stretching, even meditating, can hurt a person.  But it hardly seems necessary to add "Oh, btw, you have to do this intelligently and not destroy yourself while you do it."  The spirit of the message already contains that advice at its core.

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  68. Todd Green I really do appreciate the sentiment behind the statement, I hope I made that clear, I just don't like inaccurate information because not everybody will use it in the same way. I understand eastern culture and medicine - I have practised yoga for 8 years, I teach taijiquan (Tai Chi) and I taught it in China where I lived for 2 years in various Buddhist and one Islamic temple. I developed an 8-step routine still taught to this day and was nominated to meet Li Deyin. I have one of only three copies of his seminal work which has been signed by him. But please don't forget that eastern culture also bought us the concept that AIDS can be cured with spine manipulation and arthritis can be cured with weight suits - there are as many "snake oil salesmen" from the east as the west and from ancient and modern times.

    I do understand the thought exercises and visualisations that are so important to these techniques, but I worry about a recovering alcoholic who has serious jaundice reading that and believing that exercise will help clear his jaundice quicker - what he's really doing is making his condition worse (Jaundice being a build up of biliruben, a toxin in the blood)

    I don't want to press the point and I won't post on the subject again - I don't want to be a part of a debate on the subject, but I want you to understand that my posts are coming from the correct place and hopefully encourage people to not just blindly misinterpret things like this and make sure that what they are doing is good for them.

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  69. Nice post - I'm doing so many of these things but Sunday's still hit me hard and I seem to totally shut down.   I look forward to the day when it is not so.

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  70. Lori Heustess -- I do know that feeling well. The only way out is through it ... force yourself to do something else on Sundays. Volunteering or finding others you can help is great for this!

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